leave the past in the past?

i'm not sure where i stand on the issue of discussing past relationships with your current one. part of me feels like its a giant no-no: after all, who wants to hear all about how wonderful meg was? or how jake was so much better at this or that? yet, part of me realizes that, as much as we may not want to admit it, our previous relationships effect us and change who we are. maybe its just in small ways - like knowing that certain habits that ex #3 had will not be tolerated in any future relationships. or maybe its in big ways - maybe you are divorced and have his children. sometimes talking about the past just can't be avoided, but what about when it can . . .

i've been pondering this topic quite a bit lately because i have stories from my previous relationships that i would like to share on this blog. i don't want to be insensitive to the hubs, but our past is part of who we are. and its silly to pretend that that past doesn't exist. it certainly does no good to get caught up in the past, or to discuss past relationships to be hurtful. but the hubs knows i love him, and knows that he is my life, my family, my future. telling stories about the path that brought me to him - even if it evolves other men i encountered along the way - is just a way for me to reflect on how glad i am to be where i am.

so, stories to come . . .